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~ Healing abandonment wounds ~

Our life experiences can be quite challenging,
but those challenges and difficult experiences we came here for.

With everyone having past experiences, 'on their shoulders' so to speak, it's true to say, that every being will have had some abandonment wound to heal, and often relationship problems stem from abandonment wounds. Naturally the causes for those can also be our past karma or indeed even our current life purpose, i.e. what we (= our soul), planned for this incarnation.

It is not really possible to grow up in our society
without some abandonment wounds.
The following are some examples of the ways it can occur:

* Being torn away from mother at birth and put into a nursery.

* Being left to cry in a crib or playpen.

* Being given up for adoption or being left in foster care.

* Being physically and/or sexually abused.

* Being emotionally abused - ignored, yelled at, shamed.

* Being pushed aside at the birth of a new sibling.

* Having a parent or caregiver who is emotionally unavailable.

* Being unseen or misunderstood by parents or other caregivers.

* Being lied to.

* Being unprotected by a parent or caregiver.

* Being left alone in a hospital during an illness.

* Losing a beloved parent or grandparent at a very young age.

* Experiencing a divorce.

* Being teased or left out with siblings or peers.

* Being ridiculed by a teacher.

* Being forgotten - not being picked up from school or other places.

* Being left at a young age to care for oneself, a parent, or other siblings.

* Not receiving (family) support when opening up about,
who one really is, with for example referring to gender, sexual orientation, religion, way of life, life plans, career etc.

When we are deeply wounded at a young age, we cannot handle the pain,
so we find ways to dissociate from the intense feelings.
Then, later in life, especially when we fall in love, these old wounds can get activated. Our beloved gets angry, withdraws, gives attention to someone else, says mean things, doesn't tell the truth, doesn't stand up for us, comes home late, wanders away in a crowded public place,
misunderstands us, and so on - and suddenly the pain that has been pushed aside all these years, comes roaring to the surface.

When this happens we often think or assume that we are reacting to the present situation, but what is really happening is
that the old, unhealed abandonment wound has been touched off.

We might find ourselves suddenly enraged or falling apart with intense tears.
Our reaction seems too big for the situation, yet we cannot seem to stop the inner pain. We might even physically start to shake violently as the old terror finally erupts.

We want our beloved to take the pain away by stopping his or her behavior.
We often think, if only he or she would not do the thing that activates these feelings, we would be fine.
Yet until we actually heal these old, deep wounds, we will not be fine.
We will always be vulnerable to having these wounds activated.

Healing the abandonment wounds does not happen overnight,
yet it does not have to take years either, however it does require some effort.

• So tuning into your feelings with a willingness to take responsibility for your pain, is a very good start.

It is often not advisable to seek the help of the person
who activated the wound because:

1) he or she may still be stuck in their own wounded place, the place that touched off your wound;

2) you might become dependent upon your beloved, taking care of you and taking the pain away instead of actually healing the pain.

3) And this might not even be possible, if the wound stems from a past life.

The ways to deal with these hidden wounds,
is to 'get out your inner child' so to speak.

But, as with those wounds naturally and quite often are accompanied with severe traumas, as the event was so harsh and shocking, that the only way one could survive, was to 'leave one's body' mentally.

So healing requires to heal those traumas and that is best and most time effectively done by using the pain-free method of EFT (emotional freedom technique) or basically tapping.

Once these old wounds are healing,
you will feel a new sense of personal power.
Other people's behavior cannot that easily or not at all any longer
trigger you into these intensely painful feelings.

You can do EFT by yourself
but there are also practitioners available who can help you with.
EFT isn't hard to do, but for using the best 'phrases' while tapping is quite essential and for that it's rather helpful to not be stuck alone on this.

If you like some assistance with tapping,
we also offer talk therapy with EFT (tapping),
for this simply book a consultation and we'll either incorporate it into psychological/classical counselling or
holistic/spiritual counselling and talk therapy.

To your healed self,
with light

TimeForTalking

Spiritual Mentor for your body, mind and soul.
Assisting, healing, empowering you on your path,
using a variety of holistic modalities and psychic tools.

https://www.timefortalking.com

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~ Life has different focuses ~

Life's focus is different for everyone.
For some it might be all about work, or the partner, or finances,
but those are only very major topics, as there will be numerous
other sub-categories present as well,
like experiencing feelings or the body for example.

Either way, usually those sub-categories can be found in main areas like:
- oneself, impulses, urges, aggression, anger,
- values, resources,
- communication, learning, siblings, neighbours,
- the home, the house we live in, ancestors, the mother,
- children, affairs, games, gambling,
- daily routines, health, body, diet ,
- partner,
- changes, other people's money, death, power,
- learning, foreign countries, spiritual wisdom,
- career, public life, the father,
- friends, clubs and communities,
- the subconscious, dreams, immune system, jail/hospital

These are main areas but for every person the exact blue-print will show the combinations of character and all other facts,
making this absolute unique combination of it all shown.

Find out what these are for you on: https://www.timefortalking.com.
We have a free gift waiting for you, too.

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Assisting, healing, empowering you on your path,
using a variety of holistic modalities and psychic tools.

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~ Life's motivation ~

Our motivations in life

Our motivation is always only either love or fear.
There is nothing else.

To connect to your divine self, in every situation ask yourself,
what would love do?
And then act accordingly.
It's always your choice.

In life, our living experience is all about
knowing something,
then experiencing it
and finally being it.

And polarities, i.e. negative things were created for us,
so we would be able to experience who we really are,
by experiencing all life situations, for us to remember who we like to be.
That is what life is all about.

May your day be filled with lots of empowering, white angel light.
TimeForTalking

Spiritual Mentor for your body, mind and soul.
Assisting, healing, empowering you on your path,
using a variety of holistic modalities and psychic tools.

https://www.timefortalking.com

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Beating the Corona blues

The darker times in combination with social distancing and isolations can be a challenge.
Here are 10 helpful tips to counteract the possible blue feelings within you:

1. Stay active
- even when staying at home, follow your routines of getting up, cleaning, dress up, eating
2. Be positive
- no matter what happens, it's only your inner attitude towards it that determines
how you will experience the situation. Whether it's a disaster or just one tough day.
3. Don't compare your life to others,
you have no idea what their journey is all about.
- in difficult times we often look to others enviously, if they might seemingly have it easier,
this never leads to more happiness.
4. Try to make other people smile daily.
- in difficult times sharing joy does wonders, so make at least 3 people smile each day.
5. Stay in contact with family and friends.
- yes currently actual visits might be difficult or impossible,
but there are so many other options for you.
Call friends and family by normal phone or via a video call to see the other person, too.
There is also email, textmessages, whatsapp etc.
We are rather fortunate to experience this pandemic in the current times,
imagine how people were during the black plague without our technologies.
6. Be loving
- if nothing, the pandemic shows that this life can also end, so be full of love,
your time is far too precious to send out any hateful thoughts towards anyone or anything.
7. Enjoy the ride
- burn the candles, use the nice sheets. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
8. Know and trust that times will change again
- however good or bad a situation, everything will always change. So it's also true for this pandemic, times will be better again and we will look back onto these current times.
9. Laugh alot
- humour has healing powers. Thus laugh daily. Watch your favourite comedy show, read jokes or whatever. When the going gets tough and you don't seem to find anything funny, then simply form your mouth into a smile, your brain will assume you are laughing and subsequently pour out healing hormones, which will improve your mood.
10. Be grateful
- during challenging times this seems a difficult task, but this will determine how exactly you will experience tough times.Every night mentally go through all the things you are grateful for. Should you now think, there is nothing to name: think of the food you had to eat, the flat/house you live in, friends, pets, family, kindess of others, your work, the TV/internet/PC/phone etc.
And it's so true, that whatever we think about we will bring about.

May your day be filled with lots of empowering, white angel light.
TimeForTalking

Spiritual Mentor for your body, mind and soul.
Assisting, healing, empowering you on your path,
using a variety of holistic modalities and psychic tools.

https://www.timefortalking.com

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~ 10 steps out of the blues ~

In life we all will go through some darker times as well.

Being prepared and ready for these makes a whole lot of a difference.
So here now are 10 easy to follow steps out of those blues,
thus whenever you feel down in the dumps you have an easy way out of it, too.

#1 Smile - this is meant literally, just let your face form a smile.
Sounds too simple? But it really works, as your brain cannot detect whether that smile is genuine or not, nonetheless it will send happy hormones into your body and that's what you can do with right now.

#2 Laugh - laughter is really one of the best medicine, so find something funny to watch.
Your favourite stand-up show or movie, anything that will crack you up.

#3 Talk to someone - with this I mean connect with someone. Literally a n y o n e,
this might be someone still living, a passed over person, or even your pet.
All connections will have a soothing effect on your psyche.

#4 Get moving - any physical activity will send out endomorphines and this will let you feel a moment of euphoria, which is what you need right now.

#5 Positive thoughts - readjust your thoughts and actively change them to positive statements. Your initial thoughts of 'This is all so hopeless. - Turn into: 'I am full of hope and gratitude'. Change: 'I am so sad'. To: 'I am happy and full of love.'
Might sound like not a lot, but it will do wonders.

#6 Love, Light, Peace - cover yourself with love, light and peace, by saying in your mind:
I am filled with love, light and peace and I am sending out love, light and peace to everyone.

#7 Learn about your Soul's needs - you as your soul will have innate traits and qualities which you need to harvest upon right now, so you know what will and can work for you and what simply won't.

#8 Go more into your Neptune placement - this will bring your closer to the Divine and subsequently lift your spirits.

#9 For those extremely blue times - go into your South Node placement - this will be familiar territory for you and this feeling of 'home' will ease your mind.

#10 Relax & see the bigger picture - All will change again - know and realize that this won't stay like this forever. All will be different again tomorrow. So hang in just now, all will be well again. Also understand that there will be good reasons for these feelings. You might know them yet, but even if not, trust that they are FOR you and simply do something else to occupy yourself with.

If you like some support and help during your blue and sad times for example,
or need the astrological insights from your natal chart, book a consultation in our shop today on www.shop.timefortalking.com

May your day be filled with lots of empowering, white angel light.

TimeForTalking

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Assisting, healing, empowering you on your path,
using a variety of holistic modalities and psychic tools.

https://www.timefortalking.com

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~ Why a holistic approach is essential to the healing of
any illness, sickness or challenge in life ~

During every person's lifetime one is confronted with some kind of illness or disease
or other (health related) challenges.

However in our society there seems to be the belief
the only quick fix being to go and see a GP.

It's all about the wish to get the 'wonder tablet' that makes it all better,
without us having to do anything ourselves.

But many GPs very unfortunately have a kind of tunnel vision when dealing with patients.
Their focus lies on their own expertise alone and they are not willing to have an open mind
nor sway away from this 'textbook' knowledge only,
with the doctor's routine being the procedure of: illness - prescription - money.

This is especially the case when finding the correct diagnosis is difficult
or the illness or symptoms unusual. But also with any psychosomatic illnesses,
depression, migraine and sleeping problems, pain management, as well as burn out etc.

Before I continue I ought to mention here that I am not implying that doctors are are waste of time nor that one should avoid going to one either. Quite naturally there are also the incidents of surgeries and medical treatments at an accident etc.,
but that's not what I am talking about now.

In an ideal world everyone would possess adequate holistic knowledge,
or if not receiving that from holistic practitioners and therapists,
and applying this knowledge into their own lives daily for (self)healing and improvement of quality of life, preferably even before falling ill with any illness.
Keeping and applying this holistic healing knowledge while also using the traditional medicine through doctors. This way one would reap the most benefits and most importantly
would always find out the true causes of any illness.
Subsequently healing the cause rather than the symptom.

Unfortunately this is very rarely the case and our society's norms are predominately
leading to a wrong and ill-advised nor effective approach.

No illness can get cured through a prescription.

Furthermore any prescription (usually pure chemical substances), unless it's 100% herbal and well tolerated, brings with it numerous side effects, which often gets forgotten.
It's quite astounding how many people take several tablets a day, but also need to take several additional ones to counteract the side effects of the first load of tablets.

Yes, it's true that the symptoms might be stopped or relieved with a prescription,
but it can never heal nor work on the true underlying causes of the illness or disease
that caused them to start with. Only when that is found and healed
the illness can be truly cured and is not likely to return either.

That's why it is so absolutely essential to look at the entire being (body, mind and soul)
of any patient seeking help and healing.
Unfortunately the traditional, western doctors often lack this kind of knowledge, nor do they rarely have the time, the patience, the resources and sadly not even the interest either.

When using a holistic approach one can use the wisdom and knowledge of the following areas of expertise and with it receiving numerous details on the applicable situaiton and the necessary (self)healing processes.

These areas are:
astrology, card reading, chakra - soul work, karma, past lives, spiritual helpers and angels,
crystals, life beliefs and general belief systems, universal laws, that apply to everyone, whether believing or accepting them or not, numerology, thought patterns, EFT tapping, qigong, reiki, meditation, just to name a few.

From these fields of knowledge I can also for example see what kind of illnesses / challenges you will experience during what times and for how long exactly,
or what disease will be a chronic one during your life time,
and how you can deal with it most effectively and so much more.

Furthermore all these areas and pools of wisdom give precise indications to the true cause of any illness and with it presenting you with unique and absolutely pain-free
and side-effect free therapie approaches through (self) healing steps to take.

It requires a bit of a shift of thoughts and the learning of those facts.
But this approach should at least always be taken into account in combination with seeing a doctor. As not everyone will have the knowledge of all holistic fields automatically accessible, there are holistic working therapists, like myself, TimeForTalking.

And yes, these kind of holistic therapists will be a private venture and not be covered
by the NHS or any other equivalent health insurance.
But you should never forget that we are talking about your life and your health and body here.
You shouldn't have to wait for the NHS or any health insurance to dictate what kind of therapy you will be permitted to use, as they are paid for.
I.e. only choosing to go and see your GP as only that will be covered automatically.

Apart from the path to holistic (self)healing of your body and life, combined with positive changes to your life and quality of life (as in my therapies I will present you with the applicable and available therapies and what steps to take for you and your specific situation, which you can then carry through on your own at home),
which both are really priceless, there are also additional advantages to choose to see privately a holistic practitioner and therapist, these are:

**** You can choose the practitioner/counsellor/therapist you feel most comfortable with and not having to go with a given NHS (or health insurance chosen) one.

**** Easy access to an appointment and no NHS (health insurance) waiting lists nor procedures. (- At least with us here at TimeForTalking, there won't be any waiting lists, as we provide appointments every day of the year.)

**** No need to wait for NHS (or a health insurance) to authorise anything.

**** No information about your private counselling/therapy will be forwarded to your GP nor the NHS (or health insurance). (- We keep all your details absolutely private and confidential.)

****You can decide on the frequency and the lengths of your coaching/counselling/therapy sessions.

Furthermore holistic therapy, at least with us
(TimeForTalking Guidance Services),
has the following additional benefits:

- faster results and much more effective finding of true causes
(psychological counselling alone could never provide this as efficiently)

- deeper insights

- we aim to avoid any waiting lists

- total confidentiality

- comfortably delivered to you at the convenience of your own home
(during day, evening or night time)

- much easier for you
[As therapy is provided to you by phone or via Skype (or rather, via the medical teleplatform Vsee, thus 100% encrypted) , it is much easier to open up. It's a known fact that people feel blocked and insecure and find it harder to open up to someone they face in person in a room.
But when the therapist isn't seeing the client, this helps and is much more effective for the therapy sessions. In the instant when the client ought to be seen, i.e. during EFT tapping therapy, naturally this can be incorporated easily via Video calling using webcams.]

- more convenient (with no travelling to and from sessions, you save on time and money)

- very friendly and caring

- really helpful, you will be surprised

- always with practical tips for you, your situation and life

- non-judgemental and always solution-orientated

- customer-friendly and customer-orientated

- flexible and human

- appointments possible Monday – Sunday and even on bank holidays

- every situation will be taken seriously and never laughed at or dismissed

- reduced fees for new clients and for booking of larger time packages.

I am a professional holistic counsellor and psychotherapist/talk therapist (life coach).
Try it yourself.
Take advantage of my knowledge and years of experience.
You will benefit positively and this ongoing throughout your life as my guidance
is indeed life changing.

Visit my practice online.

We also have many gifts waiting for you.

Ready to give it a try yourself?
Then book a time package in the shop.

May your day be filled with lots of empowering, white angel light.
TimeForTalking

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Assisting, healing, empowering you on your path,
using a variety of holistic modalities and psychic tools.

https://www.timefortalking.com

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~ Our life's mission ~

Richard Bach summed it up so nicely:
" Here is the test to find out whether your mission on Earth is finished. If you are alive, it isn't. "

**** So nicely put and so true. We all have at least one life's purpose.
There is so much to take in in life and so much to learn.
But despite of that we also all have an individual mission as well.
If you know it already, make sure to follow it whole heartedly and enjoy every step you take .

Should you still be unsure about what exactly your purpose is here in this incarnation,
i.e. what your soul likes you to do in this life, then let us help you.
With our life-improvement coaching or even a simple psychic reading
you can find out what your life purpose is and much more.

Life may not always 'seem' easy but we can all make changes and most importantly,
we all came here for at least one reason. Being aware of it and following it,
makes us more in tune with ourselves and subsequently much happier.
Wishing you fun and enjoyment for your life's mission.

May your day be filled with lots of empowering, white angel light.
TimeForTalking

Spiritual Mentor for your body, mind and soul.
Assisting, healing, empowering you on your path,
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Spiritual counselling and spiritual talk therapy by phone or Skype:
here to assist you through any situation in your life.

We all know life can be difficult for all of us, not only during difficult economic times.
Even when things are fine around us, we all have some inner issues to deal with
and this on a daily basis all through our lives.

Experiencing an incarnation on Earth can feel quite difficult.
Especially as we choose to have consciously forgotten our soul's plan and intentions for our lives.
This is why it is a good idea to know where to get outside help and support,
to learn:
how to find the way to your soul again,
how to connect with our inner knowledge,
how to empower ourself on a daily basis,
how to rid yourself of burdens from your past,
how to live according to your soul's plan,
how to find true happiness, love, harmony, balance, understanding, growth, wealth, success, friendship and much more.

Because of this we decided to dedicate a separate new web page
for everyone to be able to receive this kind of help and support.

Introducing to you spiritual counselling by phone or skype:
assisting you through any situation in your life.


You actually have the answers to all of your questions right inside of you,
let me show you your inner source of wisdom to enrich your life
and so you can meet your full potential.


May your day be filled with lots of empowering, white angel light.

TimeForTalking

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Assisting, healing, empowering you on your path,
using a variety of holistic modalities and psychic tools.

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